Monday, March 10, 2014

#banbossy

i learned of the ban bossy campaign going on and it struck true to my heart.
uniforms make you feel in charge. from byu library security days

When a little boy asserts himself, he's called a "leader.” Yet when a little girl does the same, she risks being branded “bossy.” Words like bossy send a message: don't raise your hand or speak up. By middle school, girls are less interested in leading than boys—a trend that continues into adulthood. Together we can encourage girls to lead.
family reunion pic circa 2010

i've definitely been labeled as bossy in my life, and it may be true that i tend to portray  a quality as such.
but i've also been lucky to have been shown and told by others that i have leadership qualities, and so that's usually how i acknowledge this trait of mine. 
i think what makes the difference between bossy and leaderly is the character behind those words/actions. example:
#1 it's time to go to the park everyone, let's go.
#2 i think we're going to head to the park if anyone wants to join.
those are probably really stupid examples but get what i mean? 

i was once in a situation where a guy yelled out "too many chiefs! not enough indians!"
it made us all laugh out loud.
i love that phrase.
sometimes you just gotta step back and let someone else lead, and do so kindly without interjecting your own thoughts on the situation, just follow along, it will all be ok in the end.

this post was mostly for bossy kimber to remind herself what to work on,
because i imagine all my readers/friends have already perfected this trait ;)

am i the only one who struggles with this quality

3 comments:

Joe and Jocelyn Sigety said...

Two things:
1-I literally burst out laughing when that security guard pic popped up HILAIOUS and AWESOME!!!!
2-I too may have a problem with leading in a nosy manner, but I totally agree with you that it's all how you ask or say something. I also believe that it's ok (yet difficult) to let others lead and support them as they do!
Ah man I love that top pic!!

Blair said...

Good words. I too have been called bossy when really I just want to get the job done, whatever that is. but i am trying to work on doing that in a less "bossy" manner. thanks for the reminder :)

Cherri said...

Bossy is as bossy does. Yep two different roads can get to the same destination.