#banbossy

i learned of the ban bossy campaign going on and it struck true to my heart.

uniforms make you feel in charge. from byu library security days

When a little boy asserts himself, he's called a "leader.” Yet when a little girl does the same, she risks being branded “bossy.” Words like bossy send a message: don't raise your hand or speak up. By middle school, girls are less interested in leading than boys—a trend that continues into adulthood. Together we can encourage girls to lead.

family reunion pic circa 2010

i've definitely been labeled as bossy in my life, and it may be true that i tend to portray  a quality as such.

but i've also been lucky to have been shown and told by others that i have leadership qualities, and so that's usually how i acknowledge this trait of mine. 

i think what makes the difference between bossy and leaderly is the character behind those words/actions. example:

#1 it's time to go to the park everyone, let's go.

#2 i think we're going to head to the park if anyone wants to join.

those are probably really stupid examples but get what i mean? 

i was once in a situation where a guy yelled out "too many chiefs! not enough indians!"

it made us all laugh out loud.

i love that phrase.

sometimes you just gotta step back and let someone else lead, and do so kindly without interjecting your own thoughts on the situation, just follow along, it will all be ok in the end.

this post was mostly for bossy kimber to remind herself what to work on,

because i imagine all my readers/friends have already perfected this trait ;)

am i the only one who struggles with this quality

Happy Birthday Kimber!!

Pretty cool to have a gun named after you!

About 19 weeks and looking great!

Today is Kimber's birthday and sometimes she acts a little older than she seems. I am so happy this girl went to BYU and that I ended up meeting her there because I don't think I could live without her. She makes me so happy and does so much for me. I am glad that we have the opportunity to start our lives and family here in the next few months and truly rely on the Lord for that is what Kimber knows how to do. She is very compassionate and loving and can make even her enemies like her for just being her. I love you babe and I look forward to sharing many more birthdays with you. I tried to surprise Kimber with a present every day since we celebrate birthdays  as a birthday week! So I tried to start out little with smaller gifts and lead up to a larger gift, which included a manicure/pedicure for the 2 of us at some spa for this morning. I am glad Kimber is in my life and I can't wait to grow old together!